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pagarii is a vetted members' community. 100% offline, pagarii makes in-person introductions between other unique members who live and work nearby.

If you are kind, genuine, and love the good kind of surprise, then this is the community for you.

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Image "Conversation in the Rain" courtesy of Dom Crossley/@flashcurd

About Us

Safe yet Exciting. Fits your Schedule yet Spontaneous. Inclusive yet Exclusive. Intimate and Discreet yet Open.

pagarii connects you and other members in person as you go about your daily lives. A play on a Filipino word, which means Belonging, pagarii makes "meet-cutes" happen without you watching your phone all day. Want to date? Seeking a co-founder? New in town and want to make a new friend to explore the city with?

pagarii makes sure you're in the right place, at the right time.

We screen all members before admission, meaning ID verification, and background checks. Video profiles, which humans review, add more security.

How pagarii Works

Meet on your schedule. Wherever you are.

Once admitted, you'll submit up to four short videos. pagarii offers question suggestions, but feel free to get creative. Questions help members get a sense of your personality and values, yet allow for some mystery.

You'll then tell pagarii when you're available for a short meetup throughout your day.

When we have someone available that you might like, we'll send you a text with their profile. If you both say yes, we'll coordinate a meeting spot.

Have a spare moment or an Inconsistent schedule? Login to the Member's app and check-in for as long as you want.

Want someone new to have coffee with during your lunch break? pagarii will set that up.

All interactions are low pressure and designed to be short (10 minutes or less if you'd like).

Be open. Meet someone you wouldn't say yes to because they just might surprise you.

Repeat Exposure

Did you know that "the more times we see a person's face, the more positively we are likely to feel toward that person"?* And on average, "it takes about 50 hours of time with someone before you consider them a casual friend, 90 hours before you become real friends, and about 200 hours to become close friends".~

Think back to your longest-lasting relationships. They started at school or at work, didn't they? Many hours of accidental encounters and little moments bonded over.

So don't mind us sending you the same profile more than once. There's a method to the madness.

pagarii makes the first move. The rest is up to you.

Knowledge is Power

After each interaction we ask for feedback. That feed back is aggregated and shared annonymously so you can get a clear understanding of any behaviros that aren't serving your search for more meaningful relationships.

*Falling in Love: Why We Choose The Lovers We Choose by Ayala Malach Pines
~This Is How Many Hours it Takes to Make a Friend

Safety

Your Safety is Our Number 1 Priority

Highlights the need to have feedback from users that enables them to feel like they can report a rape or even potentially uneasy situation and know it will get handled.

safe haven for those who have had to go through the trauma of rape/assault.
I feel like if we can ensure that previous victims can feel safe, then we can be sure all will be safe.

"If you are a felon, sex offender or married, DO NOT use our website,"

Membership Terms

The follow are guidelines that we require all members to adhere to. add verbiage about not exhaustive list

3 Strikes and Your Out (depending on the offense)

no shows after confirming

inappropriate behavoir + examples
harrassment

no shirtles, no dick picks,

must be 21+
must make over $35,000

Background checks
we are only excluding for the following crimes

Principles

Pagarii is a community where above all, we treat each other with respect and dignity. If a match doesn't meet your expectations or isn't interested, we expect that you be respectful.

Remember there's another human being sitting across from you. A human being who deserves respect.

At pagarii, our principles guide us and we hold all members to the same standards.

1. Kindness + Sincerity

We all have bad days, bad dates, and bad networking experiences that make us want to give up. But even though you may feel frustrated and disappointed with the person standing in front of you, remember you’re not everyone’s cup of tea either.

So always choose kindness. This doesn’t mean spending an hour with someone you're not hitting it off with. It does mean not projecting your frustration by going to extraordinary lengths to diminish the other person, making them feel less than.

“Being good with people is an art, and the person who provides it is an artist.” — Seth Godin

Here’s a suggestion for excusing yourself from an interaction gone wrong:

"It was so lovely to meet you. Thank you for sharing some of your time with me".

If they ask if you want to get together again, simply say,

"While I’m flattered that you’re interested, I have to be honest and say that I’m not open to that.

No need to lie and set expectations you never intend to meet. Offer a compliment. Find one good thing you enjoyed about your conversation, share it, and politely move on. Any other advice or feedback will be anonymously shared after you review your encounter.

2. Curiosity + Listening

We can all be bad listeners sometimes. We allow nerves, a desire to impress, misinterpretation of signals to ruin conversations. But we all yearn to be heard, acknowledged and seen. Don’t be afraid to listen and ask genuine questions. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has an interesting story to tell or tidbit that you could learn from.

It’s up to you to find it.

When you treat every interaction as an adventure, you leave room for excitement and surprise. Don’t write someone off based on first impressions. In fact, every member of pagarii has gone through the same vetting process as you. Listen deeply, ask questions, and you never know what might happen.

3. Playfulness + Respecting Boundaries

Life’s too serious to be so serious. People want to date, be friends and do business with people who are fun, entertaining, kind and thoughtful. Be the person who brings out the playful side of strangers.

As Michelle Jacoby, The DC Matchmaker says, "Most people are sitting there waiting for a sign that the other person likes them so that they can loosen up and relax, well what you end up with is two people waiting for a sign and nothing ever gets warm and fun, so why don't you be the person who looks super happy and excited to be there from the get-go?"

Equally important to playfulness is respecting other member's boundaries. Things aren't always going to the way you want them to. Feelings aren't always reciprocated. It's your responsibility to accept and respect other member's physical, mental, and emotional boundaries by getting their consent every step of the way.

Respect and boundaries are discussed in more detail in our Member Terms. If you ever have any questions or need to report an issue, feel free to call or text us at 1-855-724-2744 or send a confidential email to dw@pagarii.com.

Application Process

Making introductions is not something we take lightly, which is why we have a in depth vetting process to ensure that who we say you're going to meet is who shows up.

First, all prospective members pay a $99 Vetting Fee, plus membership dues for either One Season (3 Months - $75) or for All 4 Seasons (12 Months - $199). If your application is not approved, your member dues (but not Vetting Fee) will be refunded.
Next you'll be invited to verify your identity. Our secure partner, verifies an official document of your choosing (either Driver's License, State ID or Passport) via their encrypted browser.
Finally, with your permission, we'll commence a background check. Our FCRA compliant background check service completes national and local searches to ensure that no member has been convicted of a violent and/or financial crime.
Once our screening process is complete, you'll be invited to download the Member's app, set your availability, and upload your profile videos.
Once you've been fully cleared, you're free to start meeting!

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